How long will we live under the shadow of our ego?
How long will we allow the dark side of our personality to control our lives?
When will we be willing to surrender to the power of Forgiveness and Love and let the light of God shine in our hearts, rejecting all the darkness?
It’s so easy to list all the mistakes and failures from other people, it’s very easy to point the finger! If the mind is controlled by the ego, then it will find all the best arguments to make us feel better at the price of making the other feel inferior. Be present and pay attention to your thoughts, decisions, criticisms and judgments, and you will be able to easily see how big and how the ego plays in your life and in your decisions.
It’s not advisable to make decisions if we are being guided by the ego. These decisions can be the root of difficult lifelong relationships, health problems, lack of inner peace, and ultimately lack of joy in our lives. Following the ego’s demands can lead to a higher price to pay after that.
The ego can also make us think that we do not need anyone, but the truth is that we need everyone because we are all connected.
When we are able to shine with Pure and True Love in our hearts, without ego and without an exaggerated look of our own importance, we will be able to see that the same light is reflecting and shining in the eyes of others too. The eyes are the soul mirrors, and when we are able to throw our egos into the dustbin, lower our guard of all accusations, criticism and anger and speak with our hearts open, you will see, that the other person will Listen to it, and understand it because all souls know the Truth, and the Truth is always the Return to the Light of God.
I have experienced this Truth in my life in difficult situations that could become conflicting, and I can assure you that when you surrender and communicate with Love, the rest of the world will respond to your love with Gratitude.
Love and Forgiveness has nothing to do with being hypocritical or pretending that all is well. Nothing will never be well if you don’t do an honest job to truly heal that relationship and keeping your heart at peace.
Keeping our hearts at peace, being free from anger, resentment and sadness, it’s the same of having a healthy body, healthy mind, and a happy life. If you think that you’re doing a favor to the other person by forgiving, don’t be fooled. We are actually doing ourselves a favor, by freeing ourselves from all tensions and keeping our bodies clean from toxic emotions, such as anger, resentment, sadness and all the negative emotions that make us feel down, and even sick sometimes. If you listen to your body, you’ll see how your body reacts to your negative emotions and how easily illness can appear when you’re not in a state of harmony with yourself.
Here I leave you 13 Ways to help you Handle Your Anger:
1. GIVE YOURSELF TIME
When you’re “cooking” anger towards a person or situation, give yourself a few days, even more than a week before making any decision;
2. BE ATTENTIVE TO THE FULL MOON AND BLACK MOON PHASES
These phases can be very tense, especially when you don’t know how to deal with this energy.
On the SoniaIndigo.com site, you can download the Moon Guide for free through the newsletter subscription;
3. BE AWARE OF THE NUMEROLOGY PREVISIONS AND YOUR ASTROLOGICAL TRANSITS
Each day has a specific energy according with the daily numerology, I have been studding this for over more than 10 years and suggest you to subscribe my channel and watch my weekly YouTube videos about the numerology of each day. For example, a day 7 or a full moon or black moon day can be more easy to get out of your center and loose your temper.
This type of transit involve a method of interpreting the continuous movement of the planets to predict future trends and developments. These transits can strongly influence how we feel and how we see the rest of the world, what we want to do at a particular stage of our lives, among other factors. This can be a very useful tool.
On YouTube I suggest the weekly videos of Nadiya Shah.
4. FOR WOMEN: PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR PMS PHASE
Women often experience tension and nervousness during the premenstrual syndrome phase. Stress, anxiety, mood swings and increased emotional sensitivity are very common. If PMS occurs during or significantly before the events of the Full Moon or Black Moon, the symptoms will increase. Ideally decisions should not be taken at this stage, and the priority should be to rest and spend some time alone and at peace.
5. HAVE SOME QUALITY TIME WITH A GOOD FRIEND
Having an intimate and honest friend who you trust, who can listen to you and give good advice’s, can be a precious help;
6. SPEAK IN FRONT OF A MIRROR
Stand in front of a mirror, look at yourself and pretend you are talking to the person you are upset about. Free it all out of you. Say everything you’ve kept inside yourself, let all the anger come out and speak without filters.
Sometimes we regret things we said when we were in states of anger. This technique offers you relief.
7. RECEIVE REIKI or MASSAGE
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When we feel that our energy is blocked and a specific subject is stuck in our mind for a few days, we have to do something to change that energy! One great thing to do is to get a full body massage. The body accumulates tensions from our emotions and thoughts. When we receive a massage from a good therapist, there are certain points that will be pressed, massaged, tense muscles and joints will be moved, and all tensions will simply vanish. The energy will start to circulate in a correct way in our bodies again, and eventually after therapy, try to look at that particular subject with a completely different perspective. Even better if we receive a Reiki massage! The benefits increase significantly, once Reiki works to awake our emotional, mental and energetic systems.
8. SPEND SOME TIME NEAR THE SEA
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A walk by the sea can be extremely therapeutic.
Spending some time in nature (parks, mountains, rivers, forests, etc.) can also lead to a deep cure.
9. MAKE YOUR SPIRITUAL ROUTINE
During difficult times and we’re felling anger, our spiritual routine becomes even more important and useful. When we maintain our spiritual routine in a daily basis, it’s easier to control anger and stay focused and quiet during the day.
10. WRITE A GRATITUDE LIST
If you’re angry or upset with someone, I suggest you make a list with all the reasons why you might be grateful to that person. Make this list, and read it every day and add one more reason to be grateful to that person. Do this until you heal this relationship. Gratitude is one of the highest vibrations you can achieve, and as you begin to do this simple exercise, you will see how your perspective and feelings about that person begin to shift to a positive perspective. It’s such a simple and powerful practice! The Universe responds to our vibrations, so if you are vibrating in a “wave” of Gratitude, you’ll be able to receive and experience more situations in your life to be grateful for. If you are vibrating on a level of ingratitude, you will eventually begin to attract more situations in your life, which will give you more reasons to complain and be ungrateful too.
11. DO SOME PHYSICAL EXERCISE
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Intense physical activity over an hour can help you to reduce stress, which is usually the cause we become irritated about. Exercise and sweating release hormones that make you feel relaxed, and it’s very useful when dealing with anger moments.
12. USE HEALTHY WAYS TO CHANNEL YOUR ANGER
Writing, painting, playing an instrument, dancing, singing, modeling, cleaning the house, garden and developing a project, are just a few of the things you can do to channel the anger energy in a positive way. For example, many non-profit organizations were founded by people who were revolted by some kind of injustice and decided to do something about it.
13. FOCUS ON THE SOLUTIONS
Thinking about a problem without stopping will not solve it, and will only make it even bigger, increasing the probability to have an angry mood. Find solutions, make changes and decide differently. Feeling and behaving like a victim will not help you to achieve a positive outcome. Become responsible for yourself, decide your life as you would like it to be, and make the necessary changes for that.
The most important thing is: be kind to yourself, take all the time needed to heal, make your decisions only when you are at peace with yourself and when they come from a space of love.
Author text in Portuguese: Sonia Indigo
Review of the version in Portuguese: Mariana C.
Translation to English: Sara Ferreira
Image Credits: Eva Ruiz, and Paulo S. Yang.